| Location | West Drayton, London & Devon |
| Age | 53 years |
| Date of Birth | 06/03/1954 |
| Date of Death | 22/05/2007 |
| Visitors | 6,402 since 04/06/2007 |
| Creator |
Ian Dunster
Born 6th March 1954 ~
Died 22nd May 2007
Aged 53 years young
Lived in Devon, but always a Londoner!
Has one Daughter ~ myself
and 3 Grand-Daughter's ~
Zulekha, Arifa & Ruqaya
Also leaves behind his Mum, Sister, two Brothers, nieces & nephews and many friends.
Dad died very suddenly and unexpectedly.
On the morning of Monday 21st May 2007, Dad didn't turn up for work and never made a call, which is unlike him.
The next day (Tuesday 22nd May), he was found at home in bed and had passed away in his sleep.
Post-Mortem tests revealed he had died from Coronary Artery Atherosclerosis (a blocked artery). This came as a big shock as he wasn't overweight or what I'd call unfit.
My Dad was born in Hillingdon in West London. He signed up to the Army as that was his dream. He signed up for 9 years, but sadly only managed to serve 3 years due to epilepsy.
Whilst in the Army, he was in Ireland and witnessed his best friend get blown up. Dad was found to suffer from epilepsy in the Army and as a result was discharged from the Army, he was absolutely devastated. A little while after being discharged from the Army, my Dad applied to serve in the Falklands but kept his epilepsy secret. 13 people applied to go, and my Dad was the only person to make the second interview. He passed the second interview and finally got around the 3rd interview. He was so pleased he was finally off to serve again. A few days before he was due to fly out....he was found out about his epilepsy...and unable to go. He never got over it. That was my Dad, he was so ashamed of his epilepsy, trying to hold him back, he'd even lie about it to serve in the forces!
My Dad fought his epilepsy and was able to keep it under control with medication, he hated it and was really upset to learn that I too had been diagnosed when I was 18.
My Mum & Dad got married and he looked upon my elder Sister Kelly as his own child. They seperated when I was small and my Mum moved to Bristol with me and Kelly. Me and Kelly used to stay in London with him every school holidays, and I went to live with him a few times throughout my child-hood, the last time being when I was aged 14.
My Dad was a real party clown and would light up anywhere. He used to embarrass me when I was around my friends with some tactics he would get up to. He loved playing tricks on people. When ever he could get a microphone, he'd be up signing to Rhinestone Cowboy!! He idolised Chelsea FC, was more than the ordinary supporter, perhaps sometimes went to extremes!!
My Dad worked for Air Canada at Heathrow for many years as long as I remember, then he left London altogether to go and live in Devon to be near his Mum (my Nan). He lived there for about 3 years, until his recent passing.
Unfortunately, since my Dad died, his family have chosen to dis-own me and my 3 little girls. They dis-owned me 3 days after my Dad died which happened to be on my 5th wedding anniversary.I am the only thing left of my Dad and they don't want to know me.
Personally, I think it's more to do with the fact that I'm married to a Jamaican man and have mixed-race children. Ever since I got married in 2002, they seemed to think differently of me, no-one attended my wedding from that side of the family, although my Dad did, and done the duty of giving me away. My Dad and I, were both happy on my wedding day. In fact someone said to him "how do you feel, now you've lost your Daughter?" and his reply was "I haven't lost my Daughter, I've gained a Son-in-Law!". People cheered him for saying that. My Dad was there also to greet me and my Husband on returning from Jamaica, at Heathrow, and drove us all the way back to Bristol.
My Dad and I had our ups and downs, like a lot of parents with their children, I wasn't perfect, nor was he...
But he was my Dad and we love each other, no matter what. He gave me away when I got married, and he came to my Daughters' Christening's.
I will love my Dad forever, his family may want to forget about me and shun me, whatever, but they will NEVER erase my memories of my Dad.
My Dad's funeral songs were:
If Tomorrow Never Comes (Ronan Keating)
Dance With My Father (Luther Vandross)
Blue Is The Colour (The Chelsea FC song!)
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Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike
and today may be the last time you get to hold your loved ones tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day.
You didn't take the extra time for a smile, hug or kiss
you were too busy to grant someone what turned out to be their last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear,
tell them how much you love them and you'll always hold them dear.
Take time to say "I'm sorry", "Please forgive me", "Thank you" or "It's ok"
and if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.
4 YEARS TODAY Dad xxxx
Hello Dad,
Well 4 years ago today since I had that call to say you had been found dead...
It only seems like yesterday, Mum said today she can't believe it's been 4 years. I got out the pictures of your funeral today with the girls and we were looking through them, I bought some flowers for you also.
This week I am taking them to the crematorium.
We are fine, I'm working hard, the girls are doing well. Ruqaya just had her 5th Birthday and Zulekha is soon to have her 8th Birthday, time flies!!
Well I'm going now so goodnight Dad, love you and miss you always xxxxxx
Hello Dad, i'm so sorry I haven't been on here for so long...
I am always thinking about you and wish I could tell you the many things that happen in my life but all i can do is hope you are around me.
I spoke to Aunty Joy last week, it was so nice talking to her, she hasn't been well.
I have a new job which I am enjoying, although I am doing so much, I don't know if i'm coming or going at times.
We're all fine though, I took the girls to Church yesterday for the Remembrance Service and Arifa was the flag bearer, she goes to Rainbows now and Zulekha goes to Brownies... i remember you used to take me to Brownies in London!!
Well I must be off as I need to get into bed as I have to be up so early!
Love and miss you always Dad, forever in my heart and thoughts xxxxxx
Happy Father's Day!
Hello Dad,
Wishing you a Happy Father's Day in Heaven... I have your card on your little table right beside you. I have cried for you today Dad, I am missing you and it tears me apart at times. Today since coming home I have found it very hard.
I have been listening to this song in my car as I've been driving today.
I am going to see a famous Psychic tomorrow called Sally Morgan, i would be totally estatic if you came through with a message for me Dad, I will be hoping and praying.
Love you so much Dad, please stay near to me xxxxxx
3 years today Dad xxxxxx
Hello Dad, today is the day you must have lost your life but it wasn't until tomorrows date that you were found.
I can not believe 3 years have passed, i think about you all the time, i miss you and i long to just talk with you.
Yesterday was the day of the funeral which i found very tough, it was Vicky's Dad's funeral and it was on the day that you had last been seen alive 3 years ago.
I do hope you are at peace Dad and i miss you xxxxxx
CHELSEA WON THE LEAGUE!
Hello Dad, well Chelsea won the Premier League yesterday and beat Wigan 8-0!!
It was so nice watching that result but sad that you are not here to watch it. Martin said you are watching it still from another world!! I said I hope you have the Heavens shaking and dancing to the celebrations!!
I'm going to see the Celebrity Psychic and Medium ~ Sally Morgan next month and would dearly love for you to come through to her please Dad?!
We are all fine at the moment, I have some personal stresses but I'm sure I will get through them one day well hopefully.
I have been thinking about you so much Dad and I'm so sad that you're not here, i hope it's true when they say you can look down on us.
Oh yes Vicky's Dad died the other day so I've been talking to her about things and making sure she's ok, she has worse family problems than I did after you died, oh god it's awful.
Well Dad I'd better be off, nearly time for us to eat dinner.
Love and miss you always Dad, love Sarah xxxxxx
HAPPY 56TH BIRTHDAY DAD XX
Happy Birthday Dad! I hope you're having one big celebration up there with Nan & Grandad. It was my other Nan's funeral the day before yesterday (4th) and I was talking about you to Uncle Martin, he was saying he was so shocked when he heard you'd died as you two were about the same age and always enjoyed each others company!!
The girls have been talking about you alot the past few days, been counting down the days to your Birthday, they are sleeping at Mum's tonight for only the second time...
I am missing you so much Dad, I hope you can look down on us.
Love you always, your brokenhearted Daughter Sarah xxxxxx
My Nan died today Dad
Hello Dad, this is just a short message. Well it's getting bigger in your world and shorter in mine ~ I found out today my other Nan died this morning. Oh my gosh it's never ending! I told the girls and they said, 'what like Grandad' I said well yes in a way, they died different ways but yes they've both died and in Heaven now in the stars.
I'm missing you so much still Dad xx
Aunty Joy's 80th Birthday
Hello Dad, I'm back online as I've had so many problems with Sky messing about about with my line, so I'm back with BT now!
I have been thinking about you so much.
We went to Aunty Joy's 80th Birthday party on the 13th, it was lovely Dad. My gosh I can't believe how amazing she looks and sounds, nowhere near her age and you wouldn't believe she had her spinal op only in December, bless her.
I had tears in my eyes as I was mentioned in the speech thanking me for coming and for representing the Dunster family, also Uncle Malc for being the eldest Dunster!! I looked through a photo album that Christine had put together for Aunty Joy and there was one picture of Aunty Joy, Uncle Des, Christine as a baby, Nan, Grandad and you as a baby! Grandad looked really funny in the picture yet I was able to recognise you straight away even though you were only a toddler.
It was very emotional being there but I enjoyed it and everyone made us feel so welcome, we have some beautiful pictures of the day.
The kids are all well, Zulekha's other tooth came out this evening, that's her 6th one now!
Mum is ok, she is going to Thailand soon.
I was loking through some old videos of yours earlier, I have a number of someone in a shop who will put them onto a disc for me, I hope it's some of me when I was a baby. One is marked Devon, so hopefully will have little cutland and the family and animals on there.
I know you now have Nan with you, now she has passed away too. I found out through the internet that she had died. I did speak to her and she told me she knew she wouldn't 'last much longer, as she put it. I was sad to learn that she died but at least she's not in any pain and she's with you and Grandad. I am relieved I told her everything I ever wanted to tell her, as you don't usually have that chance. I gave her everything from my heart and she has gone to her grave knowing alot of things now. I hope she rests in peace xx
Right now I'm listening to songs on my laptop which remind me of you, Billy Ocean, Gabrielle! I wish I knew where that tape was that you sent Mum with all lovesongs on! I know it had the Billy Ocean song on there.
Well Dad I'd better get going now, it's almost 1am, everyone's asleep and I'm here listening to music! I'd better get some sleep.
Goodnight Dad, love and miss you so much. Hope you visit me in my dreams but don't scare me!!
Lots of love, Sarah xxxxxx
Hello Dad,
Chelsea won 2-0 against Arsenal today! They are hitting out at John Terry for having an affair.
I have been thinking about you alot tonight. Zulekha was asking about you today whilst I was plaiting her hair, bless her. We have so many pictures of you in the house so they always have your face around them and we always speak about you.
I love and miss you so much Dad.
I'm going now to have a bath, so I'll pop back soon, goodnight, sleep tight xxxx
Hello Dad, I had a weird disturbing dream about the family the other night and can't really work out the reason for it!
We are all fine here, I find myself staring at your picture for ages I still can not accept you are gone and wonder if I ever will. It is so hard I never thought I could ever have had my heart ripped out like it has been.
The girls are all ok well apart from Ruqaya been in alot of pain with her stomach, it's been hell.
My friend found me on facebook the day before my birthday last yr, i can't remember if i wrote and told you. Well she found me after 18 yrs and it feels like we've never been apart. She is now Ruqaya's GodMother when we had her Christened on 13th December. We are going to see her tomorrow and spend the day with her which will be nice. Her Mum died when she was 6 and I was 8 and we both can remember it like yesterday it's nice to shre the memories though.
I also have my GodChildren whose Mummy died just a yr after you. I take my GodSon to counselling every Friday so I had him today bless him, took him shopping afterwards, he's a good shopper!!
Well Dad I better get going now as I got some washing to do, before going to bed.
Love and miss you always Dad xxxx
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