| Location | Devon & London |
| Age | 53 years |
| Date of Birth | 06/03/1954 |
| Date of Death | 22/05/2007 |
| Visitors | 5,047 since 04/06/2007 |
| Creator |
Ian Dunster
Born 6th March 1954 ~
Died 22nd May 2007
Aged 53 years young
Devon - but always a Londoner!
Has one Daughter ~ myself
and 3 Grand-Daughter's ~
Zulekha, Arifa & Ruqaya
Dad died very suddenly and unexpectedly.
On the morning of Monday 21st May 2007, Dad didn't turn up for work and never made a call, which is
unlike him.
The next day (Tuesday 22nd May), he was found at home in bed and had passed away in his sleep.
Post-Mortem tests revealed he had died from Coronary Artery Atherosclerosis (a blocked artery). This
came as a big shock as he wasn't overweight or what I'd call unfit.
My Dad was born in Hillingdon in West London. He signed up to the Army as that was his dream. He
signed up for 9 years, but sadly only managed to serve 3 years due to epilepsy.
Whilst in the Army, he was in Ireland and witnessed his best friend get blown up. Dad was found to
suffer from epilepsy in the Army and as a result was discharged from the Army, he was absolutely
devastated. A little while after being discharged from the Army, my Dad applied to serve in the
Falklands but kept his epilepsy secret. 13 people applied to go, and my Dad was the only person to
make the second interview. He passed the second interview and finally got around the 3rd interview.
He was so pleased he was finally off to serve again. A few days before he was due to fly out....he
was found out about his epilepsy...and unable to go. He never got over it. That was my Dad, he was
so ashamed of his epilepsy, trying to hold him back, he'd even lie about it to serve in the forces!
My Dad fought his epilepsy and was able to keep it under control with medication, he hated it and
was really upset to learn that I too had been diagnosed when I was 18.
My Mum & Dad got married and he looked upon my elder Sister Kelly as his own child. They seperated
when I was small and my Mum moved to Bristol with me and Kelly. Me and Kelly used to stay in London
with him every school holidays, and I went to live with him a few times throughout my child-hood,
the last time being when I was aged 14.
My Dad was a real party clown and would light up anywhere. He used to embarrass me when I was around
my friends with some tactics he would get up to. He loved playing tricks on people. When ever he
could get a microphone, he'd be up signing to Rhinestone Cowboy!! He idolised Chelsea FC, was more
than the ordinary supporter, perhaps sometimes went to extremes!!
My Dad worked for Air Canada at Heathrow for many years as long as I remember, then he left London
altogether to go and live in Devon to be near his Mum (my Nan). He lived there for about 3 years,
until his recent passing.
Unfortunately, since my Dad died, his family have chosen to dis-own me and my 3 little girls. They
dis-owned me 3 days after my Dad died which happened to be on my 5th wedding anniversary.I am the
only thing left of my Dad and they don't want to know me.
Personally, I think it's more to do with the fact that I'm married to a Jamaican man and have
mixed-race children. Ever since I got married in 2002, they seemed to think differently of me,
no-one attended my wedding from that side of the family, although my Dad did, and done the duty of
giving me away. My Dad and I, were both happy on my wedding day. In fact someone said to him "how do
you feel, now you've lost your Daughter?" and his reply was "I haven't lost my Daughter, I've gained
a Son-in-Law!". People cheered him for saying that. My Dad was there also to greet me and my Husband
on returning from Jamaica, at Heathrow, and drove us all the way back to Bristol.
My Dad and I had our ups and downs, like a lot of parents with their children, I wasn't perfect, nor
was he...
But he was my Dad and we love each other, no matter what. He gave me away when I got married, and he
came to my Daughters' Christening's.
I will love my Dad forever, his family may want to forget about me and shun me, whatever, but they
will NEVER erase my memories of my Dad.
My Dad's funeral songs were:
If Tomorrow Never Comes (Ronan Keating)
Dance With My Father (Luther Vandross)
Blue Is The Colour (The Chelsea FC song!)
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Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike
and today may be the last time you get to hold your loved ones tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day.
You didn't take the extra time for a smile, hug or kiss
you were too busy to grant someone what turned out to be their last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear,
tell them how much you love them and you'll always hold them dear.
Take time to say "I'm sorry", "Please forgive me", "Thank you" or "It's ok"
and if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.
Sorry it's been so long Dad...
Hello Dad, I'm so sorry I haven't been on here lately but my laptops been broke ~ I've had it fixed now so I'm back!
Well it's the summer holidays and the kids been driving me mad! We went to Bournemouth 2 weekends ago, we had a lovely time. It was raining everywhere else but we had the sun there and were in the sea!!
I'm going down to Devon soon to go a place called Crealy's. It will be nice for the kids but I don't really like going down Devon anymore.
I spoke to Nan recently, she was ok and it was nice having a chat with her I do miss her.
I've been really down alot lately and can't seem to get myself together I've got alot of mixed feelings but I have to do what I have to do....!
Me and Mum were laughing yesterday as I told her if you could see the kids... Arifa absolutely loves that Dijonnaise stuff that u got me on to! She kept putting more and more on her plate and Mum thought is was disgusting, and I said me and you used to love it on everything and now Arifa is the same, bless her! She loves everything you loved - cheese, pickled onions, dijonnaise.. i wish you were still here to see it.
We speak about you all the time Dad, I just wish you had more time here.
I miss you so much Dad, i can't believe i will never see you again.
Sleep tight Dad, lots of love xxxxxx
I done it! xx
Hello Dad, I'm letting you know that i completed the Race ForLife today, raising money for Cancer Research. I now have a huge blister on my little toe!! It was very emotional for me but i am so glad i done it, i will now be taking part every year and i am already looking forward to next year's race!
I have been missing you Dad, i can't believe you are gone.
I love and miss you so much Dad, please shine down on us, love Sarah xxxxxx
Your 2nd anniversary, I miss you like crazy Dad
Hello Dad, it has now been 2 years since you died and it seems like yesterday. I often get angry and break down when i realise you will not be coming back. I often want to call you and can't. I have found it so hard to come on here so forgive me for not writing any messages but you know what i have had to do lately.
Well i don't know if i told u but my the consultant has said i don't need to be seen at the hospital anymore, that my op was a success, thank god i've been terrified.
Ruqaya has had her 3rd Birthday which was lovely, she had a lovely day and had a party with lots of My Little Pony things, remember when i was into them and Nan and Grandad bought me the castle lol!
I can't wait for the Cup Final with Chelsea, I so badly wanted a ticket to go to Wembley, especially how the match tallied with your anniversary, but it was just impossible to get the ticket! I will wear my shirt and think of you though and i hope they win!
Oh yes Dad, Zulekha told me she been praying to God for her Grandad, so i asked what did she say in her prayer? She said she asked God to amke her Grandad better and make him alive again, i told her that it couldn't happen and she said well it happened to the Holy Spirit!! I was driving at the time and couldn't beleive it, i smiled and said yes but it can't hapen to Grandad, he's in the stars looking down on us now!! Bless her, they talk about you all time as though you're here with us.
I must go Dad, but i hope u can look down from above and look out for all of us, I miss you so much, it upsets me Dad, I never thought you would be gone so soon, so sudden.
I love you and will always remember you. G'night Dad xxxxxx
I'm doing the race for life!
Hi Dad, i hope you're ok up there.
I went to the hospital for more tests and it seems like (fingers crossed) that my op was a success, I'm just waiting on my results but they said it looks like i have been very lucky. Dad, i feel like my life has been saved i can't describe it! I'm hoping that is the case when i get the proper results through though, that was just me asking them for their personal assumption by looking at the tests.
Now i have registered with Cancer Research Dad and I am going to take part in the 5k RaceForLife in June this year to raise money for Cancer Research, this means so much to me, and I was heartbroken that Jade Goody has died, even though i have never met her, i followed her from the beginning and when she died i couldn't help it i cried my eyes out as me and her have so many similarities with our age, our lives, our childrens birthdays and ages, i loved her.
Well anyway Dad, i'm doing my thing for this charity and i'm hoping to get many sponsors.
Nothing else hasn't been going on, the children are all fine oh yes, Ruqaya is now wearing knickers and uses her potty and the toilet and has even gone all night dry, bless her! She's so proud, just like me!! Well, I'm going now Dad as it's so late and i'm very tired but i'll speak to you soon. Love and miss you always, Sarah xxxxxx
Dad, you'd laugh they wouldn't let me put t.w.a.t.s on here..... they said i'd used strong language which is forbidden! I know what you would say.....!!
Chelsea V Juventus
Hello Dad, i'm sat here watching the UEFA Champions League - Chelsea against Juventus, at the mo it's 1-1 and i'm biting my nails, it should actually be 2-1 to Chelsea if the dopey ref had seen the goal!!
I just looking through your site and on the little picture of the gifts you have, down on the bottom left, i have noticed that on the ship picture, it has a tiny blue flag on it!!
Well i have so much to do, i should be doing it but i'm feeling quite lethargic lol!!
I sent a freind request to Tony on facebook the other day and he rejected me! I think i'll try and adopt your attitude now, if people want to be tw*ts then let em! I don't know what certain people have been saying, like the person you told me was STALKING you lol!! Well Dad, some people are really sad i suppose.
Oh s***, Dad Juventus has just scored another, it's now 2-1 to them...............
I'll keep watching and try and pop back later, if not tomorrow.
Love you Dad xxxxxx
Chelsea V Juventus
Hello Dad, i'm sat here watching the UEFA Champions League - Chelsea against Juventus, at the mo it's 1-1 and i'm biting my nails, it should actually be 2-1 to Chelsea if the dopey ref had seen the goal!!
I just looking through your site and on the little picture of the gifts you have, down on the bottom left, i have noticed that on the ship picture, it has a tiny blue flag on it!!
Well i have so much to do, i should be doing it but i'm feeling quite lethargic lol!!
I sent a freind request to Tony on facebook the other day and he rejected me! I think i'll try and adopt your attitude now, if people want to be tw*ts then let em! I don't know what certain people have been saying, like the person you told me was STALKING you lol!! Well Dad, some people are really sad i suppose.
Oh s***, Dad Juventus has just scored another, it's now 2-1 to them...............
I'll keep watching and try and pop back later, if not tomorrow.
Love you Dad xxxxxx
I've added your Chelsea cake pictures!
Hello Dad, just letting you know i have now uploaded your pictures here of your birthday yesterday, where we had a Chelsea cake for you, we had on our Chelsea tops in memory of you and we sang you happy birthday and the children blew out your candle for you!
Missing you badly Dad, I'd love to know if you are watching down on me.
Also if you can Dad, shine over Jade Goody Dad, she's suffering so much, bless her and her and her boys and the family. It's terrible what she's going through, I have to go back to the hospital on the 26th of this month Dad, hopefully, I'm clear after my op. I hope and pray.
Love and miss you Dad as always, from Sarah xxxxxx
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