| Location | Devon & London |
| Age | 53 years |
| Date of Birth | 06/03/1954 |
| Date of Death | 22/05/2007 |
| Visitors | 5,052 since 04/06/2007 |
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Ian Dunster
Born 6th March 1954 ~
Died 22nd May 2007
Aged 53 years young
Devon - but always a Londoner!
Has one Daughter ~ myself
and 3 Grand-Daughter's ~
Zulekha, Arifa & Ruqaya
Dad died very suddenly and unexpectedly.
On the morning of Monday 21st May 2007, Dad didn't turn up for work and never made a call, which is
unlike him.
The next day (Tuesday 22nd May), he was found at home in bed and had passed away in his sleep.
Post-Mortem tests revealed he had died from Coronary Artery Atherosclerosis (a blocked artery). This
came as a big shock as he wasn't overweight or what I'd call unfit.
My Dad was born in Hillingdon in West London. He signed up to the Army as that was his dream. He
signed up for 9 years, but sadly only managed to serve 3 years due to epilepsy.
Whilst in the Army, he was in Ireland and witnessed his best friend get blown up. Dad was found to
suffer from epilepsy in the Army and as a result was discharged from the Army, he was absolutely
devastated. A little while after being discharged from the Army, my Dad applied to serve in the
Falklands but kept his epilepsy secret. 13 people applied to go, and my Dad was the only person to
make the second interview. He passed the second interview and finally got around the 3rd interview.
He was so pleased he was finally off to serve again. A few days before he was due to fly out....he
was found out about his epilepsy...and unable to go. He never got over it. That was my Dad, he was
so ashamed of his epilepsy, trying to hold him back, he'd even lie about it to serve in the forces!
My Dad fought his epilepsy and was able to keep it under control with medication, he hated it and
was really upset to learn that I too had been diagnosed when I was 18.
My Mum & Dad got married and he looked upon my elder Sister Kelly as his own child. They seperated
when I was small and my Mum moved to Bristol with me and Kelly. Me and Kelly used to stay in London
with him every school holidays, and I went to live with him a few times throughout my child-hood,
the last time being when I was aged 14.
My Dad was a real party clown and would light up anywhere. He used to embarrass me when I was around
my friends with some tactics he would get up to. He loved playing tricks on people. When ever he
could get a microphone, he'd be up signing to Rhinestone Cowboy!! He idolised Chelsea FC, was more
than the ordinary supporter, perhaps sometimes went to extremes!!
My Dad worked for Air Canada at Heathrow for many years as long as I remember, then he left London
altogether to go and live in Devon to be near his Mum (my Nan). He lived there for about 3 years,
until his recent passing.
Unfortunately, since my Dad died, his family have chosen to dis-own me and my 3 little girls. They
dis-owned me 3 days after my Dad died which happened to be on my 5th wedding anniversary.I am the
only thing left of my Dad and they don't want to know me.
Personally, I think it's more to do with the fact that I'm married to a Jamaican man and have
mixed-race children. Ever since I got married in 2002, they seemed to think differently of me,
no-one attended my wedding from that side of the family, although my Dad did, and done the duty of
giving me away. My Dad and I, were both happy on my wedding day. In fact someone said to him "how do
you feel, now you've lost your Daughter?" and his reply was "I haven't lost my Daughter, I've gained
a Son-in-Law!". People cheered him for saying that. My Dad was there also to greet me and my Husband
on returning from Jamaica, at Heathrow, and drove us all the way back to Bristol.
My Dad and I had our ups and downs, like a lot of parents with their children, I wasn't perfect, nor
was he...
But he was my Dad and we love each other, no matter what. He gave me away when I got married, and he
came to my Daughters' Christening's.
I will love my Dad forever, his family may want to forget about me and shun me, whatever, but they
will NEVER erase my memories of my Dad.
My Dad's funeral songs were:
If Tomorrow Never Comes (Ronan Keating)
Dance With My Father (Luther Vandross)
Blue Is The Colour (The Chelsea FC song!)
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Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike
and today may be the last time you get to hold your loved ones tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day.
You didn't take the extra time for a smile, hug or kiss
you were too busy to grant someone what turned out to be their last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear,
tell them how much you love them and you'll always hold them dear.
Take time to say "I'm sorry", "Please forgive me", "Thank you" or "It's ok"
and if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.
i know what you are going through r.i.p
well were do is start
my name is kirsty and i lost a very dear fried named ian and as i went to go on to his syte i saw this sight and you dad grandad husband whatever looked like he didnt deserve to die but like every one of my ians mates sed that god only takes angels so ur ian must be an angel in heart and although how much u miss him lots n lots
he will alwyas be walkign and tlking to you and heavens new angel it is
r.i.p ian always cherished with love off ur family and friends
peace is your curfue
For Ian
Hi Ian
Firstly can I say it was lovely to see you at my Nan's 70th birthday in November and I’m glad that was only 6 months before you died as this is the memory I will always have of you, laughing and joking as always.
I know I didn’t see you that often but whenever I did there was never any bad feeling between us you just understood that I have my own family now and sometimes people move on and I thank you for that.
I feel really sad that something this tragic has caused so much anger between both yours and my family.
There are many reasons why you were brought to Bristol and I guess only you, Sarah my Mum, Nan and Paul will ever know the truth as they were the only ones involved in the many telephone conversations that took place the week you died.
The only thing I would love to see is that everyone be left to grieve in their own way
We all love you in our own right and have all been hit hard by how suddenly you passed away.
I hope in time things will settle down and everyone will come to a mutual decision to let things go and instead of remembering all of this anger we will all just have you forever in our thoughts.
Sleep tight Lots of Love Kelly xxx
Hello Dad, we have been out today to get Zulekha's bike and other presents for her birthday on Monday, then we went to collect your ashes. I have you in a lovely casket. Probably next week I will take you on a journey up to London. I hope you and Grandad are ok up there, I'm wondering if you have found Kelly up there? I remember you and her at my wedding making us laugh, she's such a comedian!
I took Zulekha to her primary school yesterday where she'll be going in September, I told you all about the school. She really loved it but got the hump as she couldn't stay there yesterday!!
Well, Dad I'll come and visit soon, so for now, goodnight, love from Sarah xx
just to let you know whats going on
Dear Ian,
I received an email today from Sarah telling me how it went on thursday - see hun, like i said you would and you can be proud of your Daughter Sarah. She has done such a great service for your sent off! Me and Sabrina and Rose have had our own little service for you. I will add a photo of it so you can see it from above my darling. I m sure you would have loved it. Speak to you soon.
Love Stephxxx
Morning Dad, well yesterday was tough, but I gave you the best I could. Sorry your family from Devon couldn't be there, maybe in time, they may realise what a huge mistake they made, you won't have another funeral will you?
I'm so sorry you were in such a terrible coffin, you know I didn't choose it, I would have given you the best one. As your last thing from me, your funeral would have been the best. I cried even more when I seen you in such a cheap, tacky coffin - but the co-op said I couldn't change it, for fear of moving you again after your post-mortem, I'm really sorry Dad. You had some beautiful flowers from Air Canada, don't know how they managed to get here, but they were nice. Goodnight Dad, all my love Sarah xx
Ian you have today been laid to rest Sarah your Daughter is a great credit to you she been so strong but i know as her close friend she is hurting like crazy as she feel all alone at a time in need. You had a wonderful send off sarah done you proud .Please be watching over Sarah and your beautiful grandchildren.
R.I.P Love Simone & Family
Morning Dad, I have been to see you today, before you make your final journey, to peace.
I have many cards arriving in the post the last few days, still no sign of the one Nan said she had for me, maybe I'll never get it now she's decided to dis-own me, yes that's right, she wants nothing more to do with me, see I was dis-owned on my 5th wedding anniversary! But I always knew this would happen, remember i even told you this would happen, I knew the family always wanted me OUT OF THE WAY but to do it within 3 days of you passing away...? No matter about mine and yours up and downs, me and you loved each other. They can cut me out of their lives, I'm the only thing left of you, but they will NEVER cut my memories of you. Dad, as you know, for their memorial to go ahead, I had to give my consent and SIGN my signature in front of a witness, I just can't believe they are as gutless as to miss your funeral...the SON, BROTHER, BELOVED UNCLE, they think of you, they don't know you or love you if they will miss your funeral, and dis-own your own flesh and blood- Daughter - ME.
Good bye Dad, I'll see you in a while, all my love Sarah xxxx
Your final journey today!
Dear Ian, It is so difficult to find the right words to describe the pain Sarah, Debbie, I, Sabrina and Rose carry in us and the rest of your family in Bristol. Today on your last journey Sabrina, Rose and I cant be there in person. However you will be in our thoughts and heart as well as your family in Bristol. If you just could see what Sarah has to go through , it would break your heart. Goodbye my Rhinestone cowboy. Always love and miss you from the bottom of my heart. R.I.P. and God Bless
Love Stephxxxx
IAN
I promise hand on heart I will support your one and only child, [Sarah.] I promise to instill her with strength and to always remind her and our THREE grandchildren of your deep love for them.
Me, you and our daughter sarah, had our ups and downs. It was you, who taught me never let it get us down.
You said your house in Devon was a house but not a home, your comfort zone was West Drayton , HOW YOU MISSED THAT HOME.
You will be going back their, that I guarantee, from those gates of heaven you will smile, wait and see.
Your family want your property, thats not meant to be.
Sarah is your daughter, born into the marriage, of you and me.
Ian Im going to miss your visits to Bristol, you will always be in my thoughts, until we meet again Goodnight, Godbless R.I.P
Love you
DEBBIE
Welcome to your own site
Now you have your own site Dad, it was only the other day me and you were talking about Grandad's site, you used to love visiting his site.
Who would have thought you would have joined him in Heaven so soon?
I'm laying you to rest on Thursday, it will be extremely difficult, but I'll try and get through it.
You will be going in your Chelsea shirt and scarf!!
Good night Dad, you'll never be forgotten, always missed.xx
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