| Location | Devon & London |
| Age | 53 years |
| Date of Birth | 06/03/1954 |
| Date of Death | 22/05/2007 |
| Visitors | 5,052 since 04/06/2007 |
| Creator |
Ian Dunster
Born 6th March 1954 ~
Died 22nd May 2007
Aged 53 years young
Devon - but always a Londoner!
Has one Daughter ~ myself
and 3 Grand-Daughter's ~
Zulekha, Arifa & Ruqaya
Dad died very suddenly and unexpectedly.
On the morning of Monday 21st May 2007, Dad didn't turn up for work and never made a call, which is
unlike him.
The next day (Tuesday 22nd May), he was found at home in bed and had passed away in his sleep.
Post-Mortem tests revealed he had died from Coronary Artery Atherosclerosis (a blocked artery). This
came as a big shock as he wasn't overweight or what I'd call unfit.
My Dad was born in Hillingdon in West London. He signed up to the Army as that was his dream. He
signed up for 9 years, but sadly only managed to serve 3 years due to epilepsy.
Whilst in the Army, he was in Ireland and witnessed his best friend get blown up. Dad was found to
suffer from epilepsy in the Army and as a result was discharged from the Army, he was absolutely
devastated. A little while after being discharged from the Army, my Dad applied to serve in the
Falklands but kept his epilepsy secret. 13 people applied to go, and my Dad was the only person to
make the second interview. He passed the second interview and finally got around the 3rd interview.
He was so pleased he was finally off to serve again. A few days before he was due to fly out....he
was found out about his epilepsy...and unable to go. He never got over it. That was my Dad, he was
so ashamed of his epilepsy, trying to hold him back, he'd even lie about it to serve in the forces!
My Dad fought his epilepsy and was able to keep it under control with medication, he hated it and
was really upset to learn that I too had been diagnosed when I was 18.
My Mum & Dad got married and he looked upon my elder Sister Kelly as his own child. They seperated
when I was small and my Mum moved to Bristol with me and Kelly. Me and Kelly used to stay in London
with him every school holidays, and I went to live with him a few times throughout my child-hood,
the last time being when I was aged 14.
My Dad was a real party clown and would light up anywhere. He used to embarrass me when I was around
my friends with some tactics he would get up to. He loved playing tricks on people. When ever he
could get a microphone, he'd be up signing to Rhinestone Cowboy!! He idolised Chelsea FC, was more
than the ordinary supporter, perhaps sometimes went to extremes!!
My Dad worked for Air Canada at Heathrow for many years as long as I remember, then he left London
altogether to go and live in Devon to be near his Mum (my Nan). He lived there for about 3 years,
until his recent passing.
Unfortunately, since my Dad died, his family have chosen to dis-own me and my 3 little girls. They
dis-owned me 3 days after my Dad died which happened to be on my 5th wedding anniversary.I am the
only thing left of my Dad and they don't want to know me.
Personally, I think it's more to do with the fact that I'm married to a Jamaican man and have
mixed-race children. Ever since I got married in 2002, they seemed to think differently of me,
no-one attended my wedding from that side of the family, although my Dad did, and done the duty of
giving me away. My Dad and I, were both happy on my wedding day. In fact someone said to him "how do
you feel, now you've lost your Daughter?" and his reply was "I haven't lost my Daughter, I've gained
a Son-in-Law!". People cheered him for saying that. My Dad was there also to greet me and my Husband
on returning from Jamaica, at Heathrow, and drove us all the way back to Bristol.
My Dad and I had our ups and downs, like a lot of parents with their children, I wasn't perfect, nor
was he...
But he was my Dad and we love each other, no matter what. He gave me away when I got married, and he
came to my Daughters' Christening's.
I will love my Dad forever, his family may want to forget about me and shun me, whatever, but they
will NEVER erase my memories of my Dad.
My Dad's funeral songs were:
If Tomorrow Never Comes (Ronan Keating)
Dance With My Father (Luther Vandross)
Blue Is The Colour (The Chelsea FC song!)
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Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike
and today may be the last time you get to hold your loved ones tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day.
You didn't take the extra time for a smile, hug or kiss
you were too busy to grant someone what turned out to be their last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear,
tell them how much you love them and you'll always hold them dear.
Take time to say "I'm sorry", "Please forgive me", "Thank you" or "It's ok"
and if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.
I know I am still with you
in your prayers, your thoughts, your heart
And though you cannot see me,
I will always be a part
of life's sweet celebrations
in those times when you reflect
on how, though things are different,
through our love, we still connect.
We'll see each other someday
when our spirits all are free,
until then, I am with you
because you remember me.
xxxxxxx
Hi Ian fly high and spread all your love to Sarah, youre special son on law and your grandchildren xxx I will leave you all my love xxx
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in your heart. Good night angel xxxxx Love to Sarah xxx
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I MET YOU AS A STRANGER
I TOOK U AS A FRIEND.
I HOPE WE MEET IN HEAVEN WHERE FRIENDSHIP NEVER ENDS
Love Anji xx
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Mum won £20 on CHELSEA FC!!
Hi Dad,
I feel I must share this with you. But I was talking with Mum today and she said when she went out on Friday night she won £20. She said people had to choose a football team and pay £1 per play. So you know how Mum absolutely DETESTS football, she obviously thought of you and decide to play her £1 on CHELSEA FC..... and she won!! Her team was picked and she won the £20!!!!
Dad, i couldn't believe it when she told me so i thought i must come here and share it with you. Did you work a little magic Dad, making Mum win the money because she picked your beloved team!!?
Well she enjoyed her win and went out again last night with it!!
Tonight (Sunday) i took the children bowling, they love it there. We went to Hollywood Bowl. I remember going bowling with you Dad in Southall with your friend Norman. We used to go every week to Southall. I asked you years ago what happened to that Norman...?
Well Dad i must be off now as i'm knackered after bowling! Shine over us and guide Martin Dad. Love and miss you so much, love from Sarah xxxxxx
edith monks grandawta
♥ If I could have one wish ♥
♥ If i could wish upon a star ♥
♥ I would wish for you back here ♥
♥ I know you're happy where you are ♥
♥ But i miss you and want you near ♥
♥ Although i see you everyday ♥
♥ In my thoughts and in my dreams ♥
♥ I miss you more than words can say ♥
♥ It just gets worse, it seems ♥
♥ I try to be strong for others around ♥
♥ But all i want to do is cry ♥
♥ I just sit for hours by myself ♥
♥ And ask the question 'Why'? ♥
♥ It's the strongest pain I've ever felt ♥
♥ I don't think I could describe it ♥
♥ Although I try, I do my best ♥
♥ I don't think that I can hide it ♥
♥ My life will never be the same ♥
♥ That's why it's hard to bear ♥
♥ Because since the day you left us ♥
♥ I think that life's not fair ♥
♥ Some things seem not to matter now ♥
♥ Even things that mattered before ♥
♥ You have no idea what I would give up ♥
♥ To make this pain less sore ♥
♥ People say we'll meet again ♥
♥ And yeah I know that's true ♥
♥ But I wish it didn't have to be this way ♥
♥ Because you know how much I miss you ♥
♥ I love you with all my heart and soul ♥
♥ And there's one thing you need to know ♥
♥ There's not one person in the human race ♥
♥ That could ever take your place ♥
Hello Dad sorry I haven't been here but I can't stand using this damn PC! I'm getting a new laptop next week so I'll be here more often.
Nan rang me last week, it's the first time we've spoken since you died apart from when i wrote to her, so it was nice to speak to her. I really miss her but I will respect the wishes of the rest of the family who want nothing to do with me, and I'll stay away. As long as she knows I'll always be here for her and I love her that's all that matters.
I have been so lonely lately Dad, I just keep crying and sometimes get ratty with the kids. I miss you and can't believe how life can be so unfair especially with all that i'm going through now.
It will soon be time for me to go back to hospital in November I so hope I get the all clear, that Jade Goody from the TV has been diagnosed with cervical cancer and she's only a year older than me, I'm absolutely terrified, i know exactly what she's going through especially seeing as i had the operation.
I'm going to book an appointment with this medium called Emma, it would be nice if i could get a message from you.
Well i must be off Dad, the kids are out on the settee we've had popcorn and drinks and watching Jungle Book on the new DVD!
Love and miss you Dad, also look over Martin for me Dad give him a little strength xxxx
Judgement Day Tomorrow....
Hello Dad, hope you're ok up there flying free forever with no worries!
Well tomorrow is Judgement Day and I'm praying for a miracle Dad I really am. I know I'm asking for way too much but please stay beside me Dad and see me through I'm dreading it! Stay close to Martin also Dad, I know he's done wrong but he needs some guidance right now. I'm so worried although there's nothing more I can do. I probably won't sleep tonight.
Today I was in Exeter and went past the Devon Air Ambulance shop. I didn't know it was there so when I go back down maybe next week I want to pop in and give a donation in memory of Grandad as they flew out to him didn't they when he had his fatal heart attack. Unfortunately they couldn't save him but they still tried and tended to him. I have many memories when I'm down there, some including the family. It's just a shame they don't want to know me, I could pop in but I wouldn't want to tread where I'm not wanted so let them be and let them forget me if they want.
Well Dad I must go now, I have only been back home about an hour and Mum is coming round, she's staying tonight as I have to be up and out early in the morning.
Love and miss you Dad, always will. Please shine down tomorrow and stay with me and Martin and help bring some kind of miracle. xxxxxx
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