| Location | Devon & London |
| Age | 53 years |
| Date of Birth | 06/03/1954 |
| Date of Death | 22/05/2007 |
| Visitors | 5,050 since 04/06/2007 |
| Creator |
Ian Dunster
Born 6th March 1954 ~
Died 22nd May 2007
Aged 53 years young
Devon - but always a Londoner!
Has one Daughter ~ myself
and 3 Grand-Daughter's ~
Zulekha, Arifa & Ruqaya
Dad died very suddenly and unexpectedly.
On the morning of Monday 21st May 2007, Dad didn't turn up for work and never made a call, which is
unlike him.
The next day (Tuesday 22nd May), he was found at home in bed and had passed away in his sleep.
Post-Mortem tests revealed he had died from Coronary Artery Atherosclerosis (a blocked artery). This
came as a big shock as he wasn't overweight or what I'd call unfit.
My Dad was born in Hillingdon in West London. He signed up to the Army as that was his dream. He
signed up for 9 years, but sadly only managed to serve 3 years due to epilepsy.
Whilst in the Army, he was in Ireland and witnessed his best friend get blown up. Dad was found to
suffer from epilepsy in the Army and as a result was discharged from the Army, he was absolutely
devastated. A little while after being discharged from the Army, my Dad applied to serve in the
Falklands but kept his epilepsy secret. 13 people applied to go, and my Dad was the only person to
make the second interview. He passed the second interview and finally got around the 3rd interview.
He was so pleased he was finally off to serve again. A few days before he was due to fly out....he
was found out about his epilepsy...and unable to go. He never got over it. That was my Dad, he was
so ashamed of his epilepsy, trying to hold him back, he'd even lie about it to serve in the forces!
My Dad fought his epilepsy and was able to keep it under control with medication, he hated it and
was really upset to learn that I too had been diagnosed when I was 18.
My Mum & Dad got married and he looked upon my elder Sister Kelly as his own child. They seperated
when I was small and my Mum moved to Bristol with me and Kelly. Me and Kelly used to stay in London
with him every school holidays, and I went to live with him a few times throughout my child-hood,
the last time being when I was aged 14.
My Dad was a real party clown and would light up anywhere. He used to embarrass me when I was around
my friends with some tactics he would get up to. He loved playing tricks on people. When ever he
could get a microphone, he'd be up signing to Rhinestone Cowboy!! He idolised Chelsea FC, was more
than the ordinary supporter, perhaps sometimes went to extremes!!
My Dad worked for Air Canada at Heathrow for many years as long as I remember, then he left London
altogether to go and live in Devon to be near his Mum (my Nan). He lived there for about 3 years,
until his recent passing.
Unfortunately, since my Dad died, his family have chosen to dis-own me and my 3 little girls. They
dis-owned me 3 days after my Dad died which happened to be on my 5th wedding anniversary.I am the
only thing left of my Dad and they don't want to know me.
Personally, I think it's more to do with the fact that I'm married to a Jamaican man and have
mixed-race children. Ever since I got married in 2002, they seemed to think differently of me,
no-one attended my wedding from that side of the family, although my Dad did, and done the duty of
giving me away. My Dad and I, were both happy on my wedding day. In fact someone said to him "how do
you feel, now you've lost your Daughter?" and his reply was "I haven't lost my Daughter, I've gained
a Son-in-Law!". People cheered him for saying that. My Dad was there also to greet me and my Husband
on returning from Jamaica, at Heathrow, and drove us all the way back to Bristol.
My Dad and I had our ups and downs, like a lot of parents with their children, I wasn't perfect, nor
was he...
But he was my Dad and we love each other, no matter what. He gave me away when I got married, and he
came to my Daughters' Christening's.
I will love my Dad forever, his family may want to forget about me and shun me, whatever, but they
will NEVER erase my memories of my Dad.
My Dad's funeral songs were:
If Tomorrow Never Comes (Ronan Keating)
Dance With My Father (Luther Vandross)
Blue Is The Colour (The Chelsea FC song!)
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Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike
and today may be the last time you get to hold your loved ones tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day.
You didn't take the extra time for a smile, hug or kiss
you were too busy to grant someone what turned out to be their last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear,
tell them how much you love them and you'll always hold them dear.
Take time to say "I'm sorry", "Please forgive me", "Thank you" or "It's ok"
and if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.
Well hello Dad, I hope you are ok up there well anything must be better for you than being here.
I hope you can see down here right now and can see the mess. I do not know which way to turn Dad and who to talk to, where to get help, i am just lost.
I'm praying and praying and i just hope and pray that I can guided in the right direction. WHAT DO I DO DAD? Haven't you got an answer for me?
My head feels like it's going to burst, i'm going to see my doctor and get checked over as i feel like i've had enough of everything.
They say everything happens for a reason but all i can see is trouble and hassle! Please help me out Dad, i can't bear this on my own.
I'm sorry i haven't been coming here but i hope you can see how distraught i am at the moment, don't know if i'm coming or going. I still talk to you and hopefully you may guide me but then your own things were a mess!!
Well i'm going Dad but please know i have not and will never forget you but just need to get my head sorted.
Love and miss you Dad always, love Sarah xxxxxx
Hello Dad i hope you're ok in Heaven and can guide me. I'm struggling Dad and need some strength now. The kids are making me get through if i didn't have them i don't think i would have got this far. I just want to close my eyes and sleep for such a long period of time wishing everything will go away but it won't. I need to get up each day and see to them so i'm here for them.
They ask for their Dad and he's not here, Zulekha was crying for him this morning and nothing can really reassure her i'm so stressed Dad.
I beg you Dad to look over all of us and help us get through.
Love and miss you Dad, Sarah xxxxxx
HELP ME DAD I NEED SOME STRENGTH
Good Morning Dad.
Well where do i begin? I'm sure you have watched everything unfold. I'm totally devastated Dad I really am. I can't deal with it all so close to losing you as well. All i'm going through i can't believe it. I feel like my brain is being crushed Dad and right now i'm crumbling. I can not physically or mentally deal with anything else right now. I swear if i didn't have the kids to see to i would be definately be dead by now. It sounds harsh and i know i have to be strong for the kids but just keep breaking down in front of them. I know it's not good but i can't help myself. I go to the shops or something, someone says hello and i just break down. I have never felt so low and alone like this.
I know people sometimes do wrong in life and some more serious than others but you can't turn them away if you really love them. I went to prison the other day and there was this man who i heard was a rapist or child molestor, and even he had family/friends that were visiting him so it made me realise that sometimes people do stick together not justifying their crimes or anything but just have to stick to them.
Right now i can't sleep or eat and feel like a zombie. Please Dad look over us and help us get through this. Tomorrow is going to be a difficult day so I'm praying.
Please stay around us Dad and show me signs to help me through.
Sorry haven't been on here but i hope you've heard me calling you and talking to you.
I love and miss you so much Dad,
love Sarah xxxxxx
Sorry it\'s been long Dad xx
Hello Dad, well the last few days i have had you in my mind almost constantly. I still can not accept i won't ever see you again. Words are easy to say, i can talk about that you've died but realistically find it impossible to accept it as certainty. I cry and cry at the thought of never seeing you again so i don't know how i'll deal with it later on...?
Today i was listening to your voice recording i have of you on my mobile phone. Zulekha came in my room and i asked her if she wanted to hear Grandad's voice and he smiled and said yes so i played it and as soon as she heard you, he said 'hello Grandad' obviously thought you'd answer her!!
Right now i'm listening to your song Rhinestone Cowboy!! I can almost hear you singing away and i imagine you with a microphone!
I hope you like your fairy i put in your garden for you. I thought it was beautiful and how she's blowing a kiss.
Well next week is my college course finished and over. This weekend i have so much work to catch up on and put into my portfolio as i'll hand it in on Thursday, so i have to work like the clappers!
Well i have more to say but i'm getting a bit upset being on here so i'll leave it for now.
Dad i love and miss you so much and i hope you really can look down from above and see what goes on.
Night night Daddykins! Sleep tight and i'll be back soon to continue lighting your candles don't worry you'll never ever be forgotten and as long as i'm living i'll continue this site and the candles for you xxxxxx
One year today since your funeral
Hello Dad, well you've had ONE FULL YEAR of Heaven now. Today is the anniversary since your funeral last year. Thursday 7th June 2008 was a very difficult day for me. Now i try to just remember the memories of you.
Well yesterday was my friend's funeral. I had to just admire my God-Children at being so brave at ther Mummy's funeral. I pray she looks down on them and guides them. It was even more emotionally difficult than i had expected, i know funerals are hard anyway but to have yours and then a friend's exactly only a year later was extremely hard. She had a beautiful send off though, she really did. Her poor Dad's voice trembled as he told in Church how he'd lost his only Daughter.
Well i must be off Dad, i'm about to put pictures on Denise's site from her funeral.
Thinking of you with greater sadness today Dad and it will soon be Father's Day...................
Zulekha's 5th Birthday is in11 days i'll have to just throw my energy into that.
She's just heard your song playing on here Dad and is asking me if she can go and see her Grandad in the stars because she doesn't like it that you've died....... what do i say???
Oh Dad i have to go, i'll try and come back later.
Love and miss you sooooo much xxxxxx
I\'ve passed!
Hello Dad,
I'VE PASSED MY EXAM - FOUND OUT TODAY!!!!
Well, this day last year i was preparing myself for your funeral now i am preparing myself for my friend Denise's funeral. Her funeral is in the morning, i went to see her at the chapel of rest today, which was quite hard.
I don't like this time of the month now and i hope and pray i don't have another funeral this time next year. Denise on the 6th and you on the 7th, i'll never forget those dates.
Yes, i found out today i have passed my exam that i sat on your first anniverary, so i'm pleased about that.
You have had this memorial site for 1 year and 1 day now.
Well Dad must be off as i have to prepare my clothes for the funeral, have to have bath, wash hair, prepare kids clothes and bags and things for tomorrow and clean up. It's 11pm and i don't know how i'll do it, but hey!
Take care and hopefully the funeral will be ok, i'll be thinking of you so much more tomorrow xx Love and miss you always love Sarah xx
We\'re back from Disneyland!
Hi Dad , hope you're ok up there and looking down..
We're back from Disneyland and i'm telling you it was amazing, the kids were in their element. It was so much better than the first time i went. We seen the parade with all the characters, we had our evening meal in Café Mickey with Micky, Minnie, Goofy, Pluto, Tigger and another bear thing around us dancing! It was brilliant. I have added some pics to your gallery of the kids.
You have a candle lit for you from Richard - he is my friend Denise's (rip) brother. Her funeral is going to be on Friday 6th June, the day before yours was last year.
I've heard from the Hospital and basically don't really know what to think as the consultant said on the phone that the margins are not clear enough, but probably everything bad has been removed. I have to go back on 12th November for my follow-up appointment, so hopefully nothing will have grown!!
Well, must be off now. Have so much to do in the house and get everything on a level as the school term starts back.
Loving and missing you, thinking of you every day. Sometimes find it tough but have to get through. Love Sarah xxxxxx
Off to Disneyland
Hello Dad, hope you're ok up there.
Well i'm still packing up, only hours away for us to leave for Disneyland, the kids are well excited!! They have their own little suitcase trolley thing, which is furry with a soft toy attached!
It's my 6th wedding anniversary today Dad, i remember as clear as a bell when me and you walked down the aisle and we had a laugh at the reception.
Well i must go Dad as the laptop is slow and the buttons are sticking, it's driving me crazy.
I'll be back after Disneyland, watch over us.
Love and missing you as always, Sarah xxxxxx
One year and missed so badly
Good Morning Dad, well the last few days have been tough but i'm through. Especially when it was Tuesday night (20th) as that was the last time (last year) you were seen alive and you had obviously passed away by the 21st as you didn't make it to work but it wasn't until the 22nd that you were found dead. So your anniversary stretches out for a few days. The official date of your death has been recorded as 22nd May as that was when you were found. As it approached Tuesday evening, i was crying, thinking this time last year you were enjoying yourself and hours later you would be dead.
Well you had some lovely messages left yesterday and Lis (Steven Bull's Wife) came round and bought me some beautiful flowers.
It's just a shame that there is some minority who can't help themselves to come here and leave you abusive messages, the saddo. I know what you would say anyway - if Man Utd are so much better than Chelsea, they would have won long time before, and wouldn't need penalty shoot out and then sudden death. Both teams played well but Chelsea it was a first for them getting that far, Man U are more experienced in Euro league so at least Chelsea held them off.
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PLEASE DO NOT COME AND ABUSE MY DAD NOR HIS SITE
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Well Dad must be off, sorry to be like this. And watch over all who left lovely messages for you, just haunt the horrible ones!!
Oh yes, i completed my exam, don't find out for about 3 weeks if pass or fail.......................!
I'm STILL waiting for my results from the hospital, i will call them again now actually!
Love and missing you one year on.....I've ordered you a beautiful big stone Guardian Angel for your garden.
Love Sarah xxxxxx
Many days have passed now
since I left your world behind
from so far away I watch you
as you hold me dear inside.
I know how much you miss me
because I miss you in return
although you know I’m happy
in your eyes the tears still burn.
I try to give you comfort
from heaven when I pray
the only wish I have
Is that I could take your pain away.
Please know how much I love you
that I am always by your side
you see, I have a purpose here
so open your heart wide.
I want to watch the good things
that will happen in your life
I can’t stand to see you sit there
and repeatedly ask why….
There is nothing that you did wrong
and there is nothing you didn’t say
I know your thoughts and worries
as I walk with you each day.
If you listen really closely
you can hear the words I say to you
you see, I still share my secrets
I tell you everything I do.
I stay strong because I love you
And because I know the day will come
When we’re allowed to be together,
We’ll walk hand in hand into the sun….
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