| Location | Devon & London |
| Age | 53 years |
| Date of Birth | 06/03/1954 |
| Date of Death | 22/05/2007 |
| Visitors | 5,052 since 04/06/2007 |
| Creator |
Ian Dunster
Born 6th March 1954 ~
Died 22nd May 2007
Aged 53 years young
Devon - but always a Londoner!
Has one Daughter ~ myself
and 3 Grand-Daughter's ~
Zulekha, Arifa & Ruqaya
Dad died very suddenly and unexpectedly.
On the morning of Monday 21st May 2007, Dad didn't turn up for work and never made a call, which is
unlike him.
The next day (Tuesday 22nd May), he was found at home in bed and had passed away in his sleep.
Post-Mortem tests revealed he had died from Coronary Artery Atherosclerosis (a blocked artery). This
came as a big shock as he wasn't overweight or what I'd call unfit.
My Dad was born in Hillingdon in West London. He signed up to the Army as that was his dream. He
signed up for 9 years, but sadly only managed to serve 3 years due to epilepsy.
Whilst in the Army, he was in Ireland and witnessed his best friend get blown up. Dad was found to
suffer from epilepsy in the Army and as a result was discharged from the Army, he was absolutely
devastated. A little while after being discharged from the Army, my Dad applied to serve in the
Falklands but kept his epilepsy secret. 13 people applied to go, and my Dad was the only person to
make the second interview. He passed the second interview and finally got around the 3rd interview.
He was so pleased he was finally off to serve again. A few days before he was due to fly out....he
was found out about his epilepsy...and unable to go. He never got over it. That was my Dad, he was
so ashamed of his epilepsy, trying to hold him back, he'd even lie about it to serve in the forces!
My Dad fought his epilepsy and was able to keep it under control with medication, he hated it and
was really upset to learn that I too had been diagnosed when I was 18.
My Mum & Dad got married and he looked upon my elder Sister Kelly as his own child. They seperated
when I was small and my Mum moved to Bristol with me and Kelly. Me and Kelly used to stay in London
with him every school holidays, and I went to live with him a few times throughout my child-hood,
the last time being when I was aged 14.
My Dad was a real party clown and would light up anywhere. He used to embarrass me when I was around
my friends with some tactics he would get up to. He loved playing tricks on people. When ever he
could get a microphone, he'd be up signing to Rhinestone Cowboy!! He idolised Chelsea FC, was more
than the ordinary supporter, perhaps sometimes went to extremes!!
My Dad worked for Air Canada at Heathrow for many years as long as I remember, then he left London
altogether to go and live in Devon to be near his Mum (my Nan). He lived there for about 3 years,
until his recent passing.
Unfortunately, since my Dad died, his family have chosen to dis-own me and my 3 little girls. They
dis-owned me 3 days after my Dad died which happened to be on my 5th wedding anniversary.I am the
only thing left of my Dad and they don't want to know me.
Personally, I think it's more to do with the fact that I'm married to a Jamaican man and have
mixed-race children. Ever since I got married in 2002, they seemed to think differently of me,
no-one attended my wedding from that side of the family, although my Dad did, and done the duty of
giving me away. My Dad and I, were both happy on my wedding day. In fact someone said to him "how do
you feel, now you've lost your Daughter?" and his reply was "I haven't lost my Daughter, I've gained
a Son-in-Law!". People cheered him for saying that. My Dad was there also to greet me and my Husband
on returning from Jamaica, at Heathrow, and drove us all the way back to Bristol.
My Dad and I had our ups and downs, like a lot of parents with their children, I wasn't perfect, nor
was he...
But he was my Dad and we love each other, no matter what. He gave me away when I got married, and he
came to my Daughters' Christening's.
I will love my Dad forever, his family may want to forget about me and shun me, whatever, but they
will NEVER erase my memories of my Dad.
My Dad's funeral songs were:
If Tomorrow Never Comes (Ronan Keating)
Dance With My Father (Luther Vandross)
Blue Is The Colour (The Chelsea FC song!)
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Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike
and today may be the last time you get to hold your loved ones tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day.
You didn't take the extra time for a smile, hug or kiss
you were too busy to grant someone what turned out to be their last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear,
tell them how much you love them and you'll always hold them dear.
Take time to say "I'm sorry", "Please forgive me", "Thank you" or "It's ok"
and if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.
thinking of you
hello sarah hope you and your family are ok. thinking of you all today. sorry i havent spoke but havent been on for a while its just by chance i came on today and it is a year when your dad passed away. stay strong speak soon kerry and danica xxxx ignore stupid messages like that. thats how low people are over football. xxx
thinking of you Sarah,......words are of little comfort to you today but be sure that you are in my thoughts......wish I could turn back time for you ,to happier times as a family xx
so sad
Oh no Man Utd have won..........
Well it's the furthest Chelsea have reached and my gosh they played excellent, really did. Just proves that by going into sudden death.
I'm so sad now Dad, i wanted this so badly for your anniversary.
I have my exam in the morning which i'm dreading getting through and i thought it may make me a bit happier remembering you on your anniversary by Chelsea winning this........... oh well never mind, they didn't really let themselves down, they should be proud. Just can't stand that stupid crybaby Ronaldo!!! SISSY!
Well, i'm off to bed to have nightmares about my exam in the morning, watch over me Dad xx G'night xx
P.S .Don't be angry up there cos they didn't win....i remember your foul moods after your babies losing a match!!
This is nerve-wracking Dad! Drogba has now been sent off with red card, another injury, it's now going into penalty shoot out.................................
please shine some magic angel dust or something over them and finish the game with Chelsea winning...it's all so shakey watching. I'll be watching the penalties with my hands over my eyes, peeping through!...............
OH Dad it's tense now.....the match has gone into Extra Time after drawing 1-1, my heart is going over board!! Chelsea are playing well now....
In My Blue Heaven
Lift your head please no more tears
and think of all those happy years
I'm in a place that i'm content
To my Blue Heaven i've been sent
Where Chelsea fans live on forever
Loyal and true we're all together
And in my Heaven of Royal Blue
I wear a smile and think of you
Every game that Chelsea play
these fans are with them all the way
Cheering on from high above
for the Boys in Blue the team we love
So live your life and please don't dwell
And be at peace i'm safe and well
amongst my friends decked out in blue
In my Blue Heaven I wait for you
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Just thought it was relevant to add this here Dad, it's the same as your grave marker and plaque with your photo on.
I really am so sad now, i thought i was going to be ok but now suddenly i'm getting tearful, how on earth will i see through this exam tomorrow, i don't know.
I still can not accept you have gone, although i finally told the children this evening that you have died, because they kept on that we could get a plane to see you in the stars......?? I just told them we can't see you because you have died....Arifa just gasped!
Well i'm getting tearful so i'm definately going to bed now xx
G'night Dad love and miss you more than ever xxxxxx
Chelsea V Man Utd - 1day to go!
Hello Dad, well you wouldn't believe it...i have sat here for hours now trying to get the Chelsea song saved on the laptop - it already was saved and i went to save it again, not realising and oh it all got in a muddle, i'd deleted the file then when i tried to save it again, it wouldn't as it thought it was still saved!! All the performance i've had, well anyway, managed to sort it and get it saved again.....went into this site to have the Chelsea song playing for you....GTS HAVE DISABLED THE MUSIC FUNCTION!!!!! I could not believe it Dad i really wanted 'Blue is the colour' playing on your site for the Champions League tomorrow....Damn it GTS!!!!
I'm having my God-Children (twins) on Saturday, i'm taking them to the zoo. I really feel for them they've lost their Mummy and they're only 8. The funeral is all the way on 6th June, the day before yours was last year. What a horrible few days i have, your anniversary on Thursday as well as my exam. Hopefully a nicer time in Disneyland, then when i get back, i've got the funeral of my friend on the 6th, the anniversary of your funeral on 7th, my friends Son's birthday on 8th and then Zulekha's 5th Birthday on 18th!!!
Well i must be off Dad, wasted hours of my time trying to have your Chelsea song playing on here, and all thanks to GTS it's wasted my time and impossible! I'm fed up now!
Love and miss you Dad, watch over your Boys in Blue tomorrow Dad and make them win again. Remember they won the cup only 2 days before you died. xxxxxx
Thinking of you with sadness today
Hello Dad, just popping by before i go to bed.
I sat in your garden earlier and just a glimpse of your picture was enough for my eyes to fill with tears. I can not explain how i feel when i remind myself that i'll never see you ever again. Dad it really is so hard, i never thought i'd be feeling like this.
As you know my friend died only a few days ago from a brain haemorrhage, she leaves behind her twins which are my GodChildren, they're only 8 they don't deserve this. They've been busy this weekend but i'll see them in the week and i know my heart will break when i see them just knowing that they've lost their Mummy.
The dream i had with you in as you know really shook me up, i'm going to find a medium and hope you'll pass on some kind of message for me. When i spoke to one last time she had things quite accurate, i was dubious then but i'm intrigued now! Please let me know you've come through when i go.
I've added a few pics of the children to your gallery, hope u like them.
Only days now before Chelsea take on Man Utd in Moscow for the Final. How sad and ironic that that match is only the day before your first angel anniversary and they are also playing in Moscow and you went there.
With all on my mind right now Dad i don't know how on earth i'lll get through my exam on Thursday, all i can do is try but my mind is not with it right now. No surprise really if i fail.
Well i must be off now Dad so i'll say G'night and sleep tight. Love forever, Sarah xxxxxx
You in my dream and Ruqaya\'s birthday
Morning Dad, hope you're ok up there and are looking down. Sorry i've had to delete a pathetic message from your tributes section, i wish people would try to understand this is a memorial site. I know you would have a jibe over football Dad but for people to leave silly remarks here is not the place.
It was Ruqaya's Birthday on Tuesday, she's now 2... i can't believe it already! She had a lovely little party in the garden with the bouncy castle, only a few people but she had so much fun as did the others, i spent so long in the garden yesterday clearing all the mess!!
The children are getting more excited now as the days draw nearer for us to go to DisneyLand, but of course, first we have to get through your first anniversary, that will be tough as you know i have my exam on the same day.
Well i can not believe my dream Dad, you came back alive somehow?.... I actually was with you and we were speaking about your funeral and you laughed so much about me having you in your Chelsea glory and having played the Chelsea song. You said you thought it was brilliant and you really liked that. But Dad i wish i knew why you decided to then frighten me by reaching for me, i was fine when we were talking but didn't like it when you moved, but when you were putting out your hand and trying to get me you really scared me i woke up so tense and stiff! I would love you to visit me again Dad but just don't try to get me again! Did you try to make me come with you? I'm not ready yet Dad, i have my little ones!! Well it was nice to know you're ok where you are though. although very weird!!
Well must be off, going to collect Arifa from pre-school.
Loving and missing you forever, Sarah xxxxxx
I feel rough Dad
Hi Dad, well i'm feeling quite a bit of pain, i've had to call the hospital this evening as the pain won't leave me. It woke me up in the night. At the moment i feel so alone as well. Well i'm not supposed to have any baths for a few days for risk of infection but it's all i wanted, to ease the pain. The hospital said i could, but not to be in it for long, but even that hasn't worked. I really don't know what else to do. I can't wait for it to go away and be back to me again.
I had an email from Chelsea FC about membership, they always email me, but in a way i feel a little tinged with sadness as i know how much you adored them, you WORSHIPPED them as your GODS!!! I'm hoping to go to the ground and watch them play in memory of you, but it's difficult with the children being so young going all that way to sit around a stadium. It's something i'd love to do though for you. I will buy the children their new Chelsea kits for you as well, i will do soon. I'm hoping and praying they win the Champions League in Moscow. You went there didn't you, in fact i have your picture of you in Russia, think it's in your gallery.
Well Dad i must be off to bed now. Love and miss you always, forever in my thoughts, love Sarah xxxxxx
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