| Location | Devon & London |
| Age | 53 years |
| Date of Birth | 06/03/1954 |
| Date of Death | 22/05/2007 |
| Visitors | 5,052 since 04/06/2007 |
| Creator |
Ian Dunster
Born 6th March 1954 ~
Died 22nd May 2007
Aged 53 years young
Devon - but always a Londoner!
Has one Daughter ~ myself
and 3 Grand-Daughter's ~
Zulekha, Arifa & Ruqaya
Dad died very suddenly and unexpectedly.
On the morning of Monday 21st May 2007, Dad didn't turn up for work and never made a call, which is
unlike him.
The next day (Tuesday 22nd May), he was found at home in bed and had passed away in his sleep.
Post-Mortem tests revealed he had died from Coronary Artery Atherosclerosis (a blocked artery). This
came as a big shock as he wasn't overweight or what I'd call unfit.
My Dad was born in Hillingdon in West London. He signed up to the Army as that was his dream. He
signed up for 9 years, but sadly only managed to serve 3 years due to epilepsy.
Whilst in the Army, he was in Ireland and witnessed his best friend get blown up. Dad was found to
suffer from epilepsy in the Army and as a result was discharged from the Army, he was absolutely
devastated. A little while after being discharged from the Army, my Dad applied to serve in the
Falklands but kept his epilepsy secret. 13 people applied to go, and my Dad was the only person to
make the second interview. He passed the second interview and finally got around the 3rd interview.
He was so pleased he was finally off to serve again. A few days before he was due to fly out....he
was found out about his epilepsy...and unable to go. He never got over it. That was my Dad, he was
so ashamed of his epilepsy, trying to hold him back, he'd even lie about it to serve in the forces!
My Dad fought his epilepsy and was able to keep it under control with medication, he hated it and
was really upset to learn that I too had been diagnosed when I was 18.
My Mum & Dad got married and he looked upon my elder Sister Kelly as his own child. They seperated
when I was small and my Mum moved to Bristol with me and Kelly. Me and Kelly used to stay in London
with him every school holidays, and I went to live with him a few times throughout my child-hood,
the last time being when I was aged 14.
My Dad was a real party clown and would light up anywhere. He used to embarrass me when I was around
my friends with some tactics he would get up to. He loved playing tricks on people. When ever he
could get a microphone, he'd be up signing to Rhinestone Cowboy!! He idolised Chelsea FC, was more
than the ordinary supporter, perhaps sometimes went to extremes!!
My Dad worked for Air Canada at Heathrow for many years as long as I remember, then he left London
altogether to go and live in Devon to be near his Mum (my Nan). He lived there for about 3 years,
until his recent passing.
Unfortunately, since my Dad died, his family have chosen to dis-own me and my 3 little girls. They
dis-owned me 3 days after my Dad died which happened to be on my 5th wedding anniversary.I am the
only thing left of my Dad and they don't want to know me.
Personally, I think it's more to do with the fact that I'm married to a Jamaican man and have
mixed-race children. Ever since I got married in 2002, they seemed to think differently of me,
no-one attended my wedding from that side of the family, although my Dad did, and done the duty of
giving me away. My Dad and I, were both happy on my wedding day. In fact someone said to him "how do
you feel, now you've lost your Daughter?" and his reply was "I haven't lost my Daughter, I've gained
a Son-in-Law!". People cheered him for saying that. My Dad was there also to greet me and my Husband
on returning from Jamaica, at Heathrow, and drove us all the way back to Bristol.
My Dad and I had our ups and downs, like a lot of parents with their children, I wasn't perfect, nor
was he...
But he was my Dad and we love each other, no matter what. He gave me away when I got married, and he
came to my Daughters' Christening's.
I will love my Dad forever, his family may want to forget about me and shun me, whatever, but they
will NEVER erase my memories of my Dad.
My Dad's funeral songs were:
If Tomorrow Never Comes (Ronan Keating)
Dance With My Father (Luther Vandross)
Blue Is The Colour (The Chelsea FC song!)
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Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike
and today may be the last time you get to hold your loved ones tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes, you'll surely regret the day.
You didn't take the extra time for a smile, hug or kiss
you were too busy to grant someone what turned out to be their last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear,
tell them how much you love them and you'll always hold them dear.
Take time to say "I'm sorry", "Please forgive me", "Thank you" or "It's ok"
and if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today.
Hi Sarah glad the op is over and you are ok (knew you would be) wishing you well thinking of you all,sorry don't come on here as often there are so many fake sites with bad language and total dis-respect that I tend to stay away I can swear and curse with the best of them, but GTS is not the time or place, you are all in my thoughts take care jo xx
I feel rough Dad
Hi Dad, well i'm feeling quite a bit of pain, i've had to call the hospital this evening as the pain won't leave me. It woke me up in the night. At the moment i feel so alone as well. Well i'm not supposed to have any baths for a few days for risk of infection but it's all i wanted, to ease the pain. The hospital said i could, but not to be in it for long, but even that hasn't worked. I really don't know what else to do. I can't wait for it to go away and be back to me again.
I had an email from Chelsea FC about membership, they always email me, but in a way i feel a little tinged with sadness as i know how much you adored them, you WORSHIPPED them as your GODS!!! I'm hoping to go to the ground and watch them play in memory of you, but it's difficult with the children being so young going all that way to sit around a stadium. It's something i'd love to do though for you. I will buy the children their new Chelsea kits for you as well, i will do soon. I'm hoping and praying they win the Champions League in Moscow. You went there didn't you, in fact i have your picture of you in Russia, think it's in your gallery.
Well Dad i must be off to bed now. Love and miss you always, forever in my thoughts, love Sarah xxxxxx
I have had my operation
Hi Dad, well i'm alive and have got through my operation!!!
I'm so glad it's over now, although i was completely hysterical in hospital before the op was balling my eyes out the whole time!!
I get my results in about a week, the op carries a 95% success rate, so i'm hopeful, that they've taken away all the bad area in one go. If it's been a successful op, i won't have to go back until 6 months time to make sure it hasn't grown back. With the 95% success rate, i feel quite lucky at the moment. We'll just have to wait for my results.
The kids are all doing well, Zulekha has reached another level with her reading and spelling words, i'm really proud. Arifa is just Arifa, still into everything getting into trouble for being so sneaky and mischievious!!! Ruqaya will be 2 years old on Tuesday! I can not believe my baby is turning 2 already. I know she's mine but she is so adorable Dad, you would find her so funny, she's really comical and happy.
Well i must be off to bed now, so goodnight and sleep tight xx loving and missing you always xx
Hi Dad
I'm sorry it's been a while. Well i'm not being rude but i don't want to stay on here long tonight, i'm feeling quite miserable. Can hardly look at your picture today, feeling a little choked, like i'm about to burst into tears. Dad, i can not believe i will never see you or speak to you again. I don't know if it is becoming more real to me or what but i'm quite upset thinking about it. I have your voice saved on my mobile phone and sometimes i listen to it. It seems impossible that you are gone....
Well onto a better note.. i went shopping today for the baby's birthday, only in 2 weeks now, can't believe she's going to be 2!!! I bought sooooo much things, i couldn't fit any more bags on the buggy!! Well at least it's all done now, just the food to worry about. I'm hoping i'll be ok for her birthday as i have my operation next week tuesday on the 6th May.
Well i have to go and finish my work, i have a Maths assessment to be handed in tomorrow morning.
Night night Dad. I miss you so much it's unbelievable.
Hope you are watching what has been happening? xx Love you Dad, from your one and only Daughter, Sarah xxxxxx
11 months today you went to Heaven Dad
Hi Dad, sorry not been writing much but i still haven't got the new keypad for my laptop and it drives me crazy as it takes so long to type anything as i have to press the buttons really hard!!!
Well i hope ur ok. It has been 11 months today since you departed this world...it's so sad, a whole year next month.
My operation is now not on the 29th but instead on Tuesday 6th May, i had to ask them to change it.
I'm still totally fearful but i've told myself that it's my life at risk otherwise. I sound mad don't i Dad! I didn't literally tell myself, i thought it!!!!
I received my certificate today from my Maths exam i passed, i'm now concentrating on the next level - my gosh what we done in Maths today was all about measuring - about finding out the 'pi' and all that, i can't show you the symbol as don't know how to even find it on here!! Haha.
Well Dad i really must be off now, it's really late - well 23:43 actually but it feels later and i'm knackered!
I'll try and come back later.
Love and miss you Dad, forever.
from Sarah xxxxxx missing you so much
Chelsea drew tonight 1-1 only JUST though!
My op is in 12 days Dad, i\'m dreading it...
Hello Dad, just popping by to try and have some relaxing moments to myself.
It's 12 days until i go to Hospital and i'm totally beside myself, i really am so nervous and dreading it but i know it's for the best and it concerns my life. Hopefully they will just cut the bad bits away and i'll be ok afterwards. I'll have more tests a month after the op so it will be a while before i know for sure. Just praying everything will be fine.
I haven't been up to much lately. We went to the zoo a few days ago. Today i bought Zulekha some new shoes for school, she goes back on Monday. We went to Clarks and she has these black shoes with a little dolly thing in the sole of the shoe! She loves them.
Well must be off Dad,m i'm going to clear the kitchen, make a cappuccino and have a bath then bed i think, i'm really tired.
Night night Dad, love and missing you always. Always thinking of you also, Sarah xxxxxx
Thinking of you
Hello Dad, sorry not been here lately but been thinkiing of you.
Well I did have a good birthday - we went to the cinema and watched a good film (i don't usually like cinema, but did this time!), and we went to the pub after where i had sooooo much champagne bought for me! We got in at about 4.30am but i had a good night!!!
Well although i'm trying my hardest not to think about it, i have my operation in just over 2 weeks and i am absolutely terrified, i can't believe i'm going through this. I go in hospital on the 29th.
I can't believe that in only 6 weeks, you will have been gone for a year. When someone said it to me earlier, i couldn't believe it!
Well this is getting quite difficult to type Dad, as that mischievous baby of mine has pulled off some of the buttons from this laptop so it's awkward for me to type. I call her a baby, she'll be 2 in 4 weeks, just before your anniversary.
Anyway, i need to get a new keypad for the laptop, i'll see if i can get that done this weekend. I'm taking the kids to a sea aquarium this weekend.
Well i'll say g'night Dad. Thinking of you always, love Sarah xxxxxx
happy birthday sarah hope you have a good day ,even though I know it will be tough for you,you are in my thoughts xx
My Birthday tomorrow
Hello Dad, i still can't believe i'm sending you message through this, i still can not really accept that you've gone. Don't know when it will sink in, i thought it would have by now.
It's my birthday tomorrow. My first one where i won't receive a card from you nor Nan.
Mum is coming round tonight, she's babysitting and letting me go out. It's hard sometimes when i'm out especially after a drink as they always seem to play some songs that remind me of you, you know, all the 80's songs remind me of being in the ivy leaf with you when i was younger. So as soon as i hear those songs being played, i go on a downer.
I'll try and celebrate my birthday anyway. I've had my nails done today and it feels weird trying to type out the words on the laptop with these nails!! Haven't a clue how i'll manage my hair later!
Yesterday i went to the travel agents and booked up Disneyland for the kids in May half term. They'll love that i'm sure. I can't wait to see their little faces, we're staying in a beautiful hotel there.
I've received a letter this morning witth my hospital date........i'm going in 29th April. I'm so nervous Dad, i can't believe it. They sent me all the info about the operation and all that, well it made me feel worse!
Well Dad i must be off now, i have to get the dinner.
I'll be back tomorrow, you can give me a surprise birthday visit if you want.
Love from Sarah xxxxxx
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